After a few months of sitting around a table listening to stories from women speak about their alcoholic husbands and families during Al-Anon meetings, stories that have gone on for as long as 25 years, I learned and I moved on. Never will I forget reading in a Carolyn Myss book - these organizations are wonderful, but you can get stuck in anything too long. Getting involved with a man whom after a few years of being separated, still had no desire to move on because he had been so badly burned and hurt from his marriage. Listening to a friend speak of her experiences in grief counseling over a course of a few months, while like myself, heard stories from others that continued for many years. Looking back on all these events one thing came to mind - time on its own does not heal all wounds.
During my reading with Stacey we spoke extensively while my father gave his input, about an argument my mother and I had recently. The pain and the hurt she experienced during the final years with him and after their marriage ended, was never healed. It has been over forty years, time on its own has not healed her wounds. We all need a grieving period and then we must take action. If we bury and suppress the pain it will never completely go away and it will have an effect on the rest of our lives. That pain will come out in some form, be it through further interactions with people, our next relationship, as illness in the body or very possibly all three.
I am not qualified to tell you how to heal your pain, but I can share the many factors that have contributed to my healing, as we all have our own path. What I can tell you, is like anything, it takes work. Healing doesn't come magically by letting years pass by, thinking...if I just forget the pain and put it behind me, it will just go away. My father didn't realize the damage that had been done by not healing his wounds until he crossed over to the other side and so we are healing our relationship, ourselves, in a very different manner, through heaven and earth.
I took action some seven years ago and attended a health fair. I began attending meetings to learn more about natural ways to heal the body. This led to my dear holistic nutritionist friend connecting me to a medium and in that session my whole family came to support my journey, the beginning of my healing. I began researching, reading, spending money, not on luxuries, but to explore meditation, energy healing amongst many other things. I prayed, I attended workshops, I took responsibility for my part in relationships that I had been involved in, expressing gratitude for both good and challenging times. I journaled and I continually put into practice everything I was learning. I cried, I spent time alone and I opened up to hear what others wanted to share with me, whether I wanted to hear it or not. I found Stacey and in our sessions I have the intention of following the guidance she, my guardian angels, guides and father provide with determination to learn my lessons along the way.
The work has been paying off. My guides, for the time being, are bringing me lessons that I can learn while having fun and Stacey advises me to keep it light and not complicated while doing mental check-ins as I make new connections. When darkness appears, it also disappears with no serious harm done. I believe there are so many good things to follow and so in 25 years I will not be repeating the same story, I'll be speaking about all the wonderful experiences I have had along the way. Time + action = healing.