First comes love then comes marriage. Wait let's back it up a bit. First comes chemistry then comes love...well maybe love follows. When you meet someone you know when there's a chemical reaction, you can feel it. It's because we are all energetic beings so there has to be a spark that ignites first. You can choose to act on it, or good old free will, you can walk away and never know what may have been. Follow your intuition, that's your gps. What's the worst that can happen? ...rejection. Don't let that deter you because it's a lot harder to look back and wonder if you missed out on something amazing. If it's a true connection then it will be felt both ways. Does it mean it will grow and last a lifetime? You know the answer to that one....live in the moment, take it slow and enjoy the process. It's a challenge, so many of us want to dive all in and then you have to ask yourself...am I needy? I find what a lot of us women tend to do is meet someone and drop everything. Our friends get tossed aside, whatever interests we had, well all of a sudden we seem to not care about them anymore. We don't want to spend any time on our own and we want to spend all our free time with HIM. I'm so guilty of that. I know, falling in love feels great, absolutely nothing wrong with that. Spending time together, nothing wrong with that either. Just let it happen naturally, allow it to be mutual and try your best to stay grounded and balanced. It's not easy, but it's crucial so that you can have a long lasting relationship that will be better than you ever imagined.
It has taken me so very long to learn the difference between need and want and now I understand. It's taken a few relationships to get here. I truly feel as though I graduated after the last relationship. I came to a point where I asked myself is this really what I want? It wasn't easy, but the answer was no, and I ended it. Yes it hurts, yes you may second guess yourself, but in time when you can see where you are and where you were and it feels so right, there is no better validation. Then you need more time, time to heal and ultimately you arrive where I am now....ready to test myself, how else am I going to know. That's the cycle, learn the lesson and prepare yourself for the next exam. Unfortunately in the school of life you don't know when it's coming so all you can do is be ready for it. If that next connection you made is meant to grow, it's because you're both ready. If you push it, if you force it, then you're needy and you're also trying to control the other. If they want to join you on the journey they will, give them a chance to breathe. If one of you is trying too hard, it's not going to work, then you're back in a lesson that you didn't learn. Kinda like summer school, you failed the regular school year, now here's your chance to pass and move on. What would you rather have?...an A+ or a D- ?? I think you know the answer to that one too. All the best, I hope you get a gold star on your next report card, I'm routin' for ya!
To follow me on Facebook go to:
Open Up With Eve